Ever felt like your spouse wasn’t listening to you? If so, this LIVE Show & Podcast is right for you because we dive into:
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Episode 4: How To Respect Your Spouse When You Feel Disrespected
This week, we dove headfirst into talking about how to respect your spouse during a conversation when you feel disrespected. I KNOW you’ve felt that way too! Especially if you feel like your spouse isn’t listening to you during a conversation.
What I want you to really grasp from this episode is that if your spouse loses focus on a conversation, it may not be about you at all, and they may not be meaning to disrespect you
Recently, Alan and I realized that during conversations one of us would end up losing focus if we were distracted. Whether it was music playing, our baby boy hollering, or phone notifications, it would make it hard to focus on 1:1 conversation with undivided attention because someone or something else wanted our attention.
Here are a few ways to ensure that you have quality conversations:
When you can, control conversations for post baby, music, and phones off
When you can’t control conversations, create boundaries so you can make space during the day
When conversations start at the wrong time, this is often when we feel that our spouse isn’t listening, and these convos you can pause it for later
Be kind, rewind. What is distracting them?
When you have 1:1 convos & your spouse is distracted, humble hour heart, and ask about their day, they may be distracted by something big, so talk about it and save your stories for a moment when fun stories will be heard in full as well.
Here are two KEY things I want you to remember from today’s episode:
If you find yourself in the middle of a story & your spouse lost focus – Be kind. Rewind.
To have 1:1 time and undivided attention for story sharing – Clear the runway before takeoff. Get those distractions taken care of or wait until the baby goes to bed or the guests leave to have deep conversations.
Reflection Questions: Talk about these questions with your spouse to really make an impact within your marriage this week.
When was the last time you lost focus during a conversation with your spouse? What was distracting you?
When does your spouse lose focus? What may be distracting them?
When during your day should fun conversations and serious conversations take place? If you finding yourself or your spouse lose focus when the conversations take place at times, it might be time to pause the conversation for a better time that day.
This week, when (not if, because by golly, it will happen!) your spouse loses focus during a conversation, you can respect them by asking yourself and/or them:
(1) What is the distraction
(2) is there a better time to have the conversation
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